Bienvenidos a Miami

Wow, I really have been slacking already with my blog. However, that really shouldn't be a shocker...considering my life is a roller coaster. Anyway, I went to MIAMI! It was so great! I absolutely loved it....wish I could have stayed out there a little longer. The beach was beautiful and relaxing. I only checked my Blackberry twice a day! My friends complained about that....hell that is a whole lot better than the number of times I check it daily. I decided to go to Miami without putting any weave in my hair. I love my hair the way it is and wanted to show it off. However, I was unprepared for the humidity that awaited me the first night. My hair went from cute to a shag, but I rocked my hair proudly. My bestie had the best hairstyle that was stress-free. Next time, I will know! Moving on, we got into our hotel that was right on Ocean. Everything was in walking distance! The hotel had a bootleg elevator and our room was a little on the small side...we made the best of it though..We were barely in our room anyway. During the day we had fun. We went to Wet Willies (Superman) and chilled out there for awhile..met some cool people..Nightlife was fun the last night we were out there. The first night I didn't like it. I am already not a big fan of rap music unless its Kanye, Common etc. They were not playing those artists, instead they were playing throw yo' hood up type music. That's not for me at all. I am a lover of R & B, Gospel and enjoy Pop, Little Rock, Country..I prefer lounges, poetry spots etc.. Let me get back on the blog about Miami and not my preferred taste in music and hang out spots.....The last night me and my ladies went out was fun. They played Beyonce' and other artists I can handle listening to. However, some hours passed and I was ready to go. The club scene doesn't thrill me. I'd rather learn something or volunteer to be honest. You know we were in Miami...so we went to those places. I had a good time with my friends. I was able to think. There is a whole lot more I could talk about --- but I am getting more tired...

ONE LONG WEEK

I am so happy I made it through the week. It was long and tiring--not to mention stressful at times. I am soooo ready for my long-awaited trip out of this city. I am tired of this scene (not to mention some of the people). There definitely are some people out there that irritate me. The other day I found out some news about my ex. Hmmm...no surprise there I say. He is not too bright. Don't I know how to pick them?!? Well, we all make mistakes on the people we think deserve a chance in our world. I made a mistake the first time I saw him. He wasn't my type from jump. What the hell was I thinking? All I can do is move on and do me. I am a woman on the move. I totally understand the dudes who can't deal with my expectations. I have accomplished so much to be so young and I need someone who has done the same. I keep getting guys who lack the ambition to really go out there and accomplish their goals. I try to motivate, help, support and none of it pays off at least not when I am with them. It's like you prepare the guy to be better for the next chick..well maybe...he may still be stupid..so it's no guarantee.. Anyway, I am done with that old issue. I am focused on so many other things. I am thrilled that I have already reached some of the goals on my twelve month plan- also known as the new year. I am not like other people who make resolutions or declarations. I make goals that are for the whole entire year. Some goals I may not even start working on until November or December. You know what- that is totally OK. The whole point is to strive and put forth the effort to reach them. I have twelve months--well now more like nine months..to continue working on them. I am really proud of myself. I super duper excited about the organizations I am involved in and the upcoming events that I am helping to plan. Planning special events is sooo hectic, but I know it will pay off in the end. It's pretty nice to see the idea grow into a successful event. I know it will be a great event. The team I am on have already devoted countless hours to planning, meeting and creating this spectacular event. : ) Well, I am signing off..

Not enough time......

This is quick. There really is not enough time in the day! What's makes me even more irritated is daylight savings. We are an our hour ahead - so I lost an hour. I could use that hour right about now. Instead of it being 11:29 pm it would be 10:29 pm. I would feel like hey it's still not too late yet. I have a list of things to do- I keep thinking if only I had that hour back I could work on something else. I gotta go- time doesn't wait for anyone not even me. I'm out.

I thought this story was so great. Terri Vaughn has created a documentary that allows Black actresses to talk openly about their experiences in Hollywood. Great video on the website as well. Go to Essence and it will take you to the awesome story.

Can you forgive and forget?

You hear it all the time- that you should forgive others. You should let go whatever they did to you. I once read in an Essence article that talked about forgiveness. I really love this quote that stated, "But even though it may seem that a willingness to forgive lets the other person off too easy, in fact, when we hold on righteously to anger, betrayal and hurt, we're the ones who suffer in the long run"- Suzanne and Dr. Sidney Simon. When you don't forgive - it's you that is losing out and they have the power. What's funny is that the other person may not even be aware of when they hurt you or even care. People go on about their lives not worried about your feelings being hurt. The boyfriend that cheated on you or made you upset---he is probably playing basketball with the fellas or talking to someone else. Your coworker that took your project and claimed it ---is not worried about you either. Your suppose to forgive these types of people. Hmmm...that seems easier said than done. I just spoke to my friend and she told me about someone she saw at a restaurant. The person was an ex-friend who made her really pissed in the past. Anyway, instead of speaking to the ex-friend- she didn't say anything at all. Later on, my friend questioned her actions. Her actions said she didn't forgive the ex-friend--she was still holding a grudge. The right thing to do would've been to speak and see how miss ex-friend is doing. You would be the bigger person and your actions would show you are not storing away past drama/issues/resentment. Talking to my friend made me think if I have truly forgiven others. I think I still need some work. I just had an opportunity to be the bigger person the other day and didn't do so. I let the little grudge I was holding probably get the best of me. However, I am still improving everyday. If there is someone out there who hurt you-- try to forgive them--be the bigger person.

Return of the EX

Well, this is my first blog. I feel like I am late on creating one--but so what. Anyway, today was pretty interesting. First, I attended a luncheon that went quite well. Then, I went to school to create a podcast and then I saw my ex. Why do you always see the person when you least expect it? Fortunately, I wasn't looking a mess! I walked in the lounge and saw him sitting there--looking blah. Blah means average or so-so. Anyway, I honestly wasn't going to speak. What would be the reason? He surely hasn't taken the time out to call, text, facebook or email me. I shouldn't be surprised though- there was a lack of communication when we were dating. So I walked past him on the phone as usual, but when I got off- that's when he spoke. I thought that when I saw him again- I would be ready to jump him and slap him in the face! Actually, I didn't want to do anything. It's like you realize that person is just really not worth it. Trust me when I say he is not worth it. However-- in the back of my mind I am reminded of the time I wasted being in a relationship with him. I thought he would be different. He seemed so hella confident that he could handle being in a relationship with me. He had really good qualities. He actually had GOALS---which a lot of times it seems like the guys I encounter --- don't. I remember asking a guy what his goals were in life and he asked me what you mean..of course that is not all guys- thankfully. Anyway, what I found out being in a relationship with my ex is that he was and still is a coward. It took me so long to understand the problem. He was too afraid to act- to afraid to fight - too afraid to put forth a real effort to make the relationship work. I can't be with someone like that. He would just let things be. I told him he was slacking in the relationship - he agreed- but did not act. He didn't do anything about it - which pissed me off. Even when I saw him today-- he didn't ask much. No surprise there.........